Shields and High-Yields

I read PUA (Pick-Up Artist) books regularly. Their material is good shit. Here's one concept that stuck with me, from Tyler Durden's "Digest" of online discussions:


High-Yield Thought Process: Maximum gains from minimal experience. "What can I learn from this?"

This seems like common sense. But let's look at it through the lens of an AFC male, or "Average Frustrated Chump". I'll be the first to admit I've been an AFC for a long time. I don't "get" many girls and I "don't get girls". So they key here is to understand why I am frustrated and to study the patterns of the opposite sex a little closer.

It is crucial to note that a man constructs who he is, actively or passively, but it is always a choice. If he wants to be an athletic, outgoing, and desirable individual he must adopt those characteristics. He is not born with them. But we only have so much room in our personality. Before we can change we have to discard the bullshit first, the "stuff that doesn't work". We have mental shields that provide tons of excuses for preserving our ego. The easy assessment for me is: "leave the nice guy routine".

It's safe to say most males view women as gentle creatures who need nurturing all of the time and should be saved from the "bad boys". Quite the opposite, chaps. Females are trained to be fierce warriors in the social battlefield from an early age. They know exactly what face to put on at almost any given time. It's fucking uncanny, really. It's men who actually need protection from the truth. The truth that we are inadequate.

I think many (mostly women) will wholeheartedly agree that modern males lack an essential skill for survival, biologically and socially. The skill of attraction. A skill, is an ability to do something well after lots of practice. It's not innate to most guys. I won't even mention the guys who are attractive naturally. I hear it all the time from women. "Why are guys so lame?" or "Does he not get the clue?". Girls are right, we don't fucking get it. They need to teach this shit in school, but they don't. It's a lose-lose situation for both sexes. Two things you can do here guys: continue reading or make the same excuses I made forever.

It's not right to sleep around, feelings will get hurt. Women aren't objects. Men are just naturally hornier than women. Guys who get the females are more accomplished than I am, but just wait until I come up!

These are the honest truths that stop me from being a male slut. And for good reason, I don't want to be a slut. I am terrible at juggling multiple women because I am a specialist. And I never have juggled women. Attention is a very precious thing to give out, and only select women deserve it from me. But the biggest excuse that trumps all is:

I don't feel I deserve to have a good woman.

That is the bottom-line gentlemen. Confidence. We lack it and the situation's not going to fix itself. Tyler Durden (both the PUA and Brad Pitt) have a lot of good input. We do not go after what we want in life because we lack Core Confidence. The most common example is the "bad boy" image. Less common is the light-hearted "joker". The strong-silent type. But they all have one streamlining belief. I deserve everything I have and more. "Core confidence" is independent of the context and can come in many forms. It is the belief that as a person you are important and deserve the most out of your life by trying your best. It is not affected by your environment because YOU affect the environment with your very presence.

You can't fake the funk though. Like I said, women are fierce social creatures and smell bullshit from a mile away. They are also very keen on who has their shit together. Even if they don't want to mate with him females will admit when a guy has positive qualities. Guys generally lump women into two categories, hot or not. Personality is secondary to physical attractiveness. It's inversely related for women. When you are attracting a woman you are essentially selling your personality through body language and subconscious gestures. That explains why physically unattractive men can miraculously end up with a hottie (see David Spade and Heather Locklear)

My Uncle Steve gave me some wisdom a few months ago. He told me, "hers is useless and so is yours if you don't put 'em together." He also told me, "he who strikes first, strikes best." We were on a cruise to the Caribbean with a boatload of gorgeous women (some of questionable age). He gave me the breakdown of why I just have to go for it. Thinking takes time and allows you to psyche yourself out. You just gotta trust that you're a worthy male specimen and let your subconscious take care of the rest. But unfortunately, most of us are not the best speciman we possibly can be. But we don't have to stay that way. Study social dynamics everywhere and anytime.

If you don't have your shit together, start getting it together NOW. Dress neater, shower regularly, make manners habitual and not a show, do everything with intensity, and above all have compassion for others (especially women). Don't treat them like kittens and stop trying to sexually manhandle them. They choose who to mate with, not you. If you truly believe you are a worthy mate it will shine through every gesture you make and word you utter. Make yourself sexually receptive, not aggressive. But do NOT tolerate the bullshit of disheartened and clever females.

Women want to have fun in relationships just as much as men. But Beta-males fucked it up good for us all. All these social restrictions on a women's sexuality were constructed by men who refused to do the hard work of courting a woman. He wanted sex at the drop of a dime so he invented monogamy. But I'm not here to argue for/against monogamy. It exists and is a barrier that must be acknowledged. A man must be able to convey discreetness, that he knows if he has sex with a girl to be quiet about it. Women already have to do a lot just to get laid, they don't want to change all the rules. They just want some good clean fun, and more than likely romance!

It took tremendous mental effort for me to realize the rules of the game. They have always been there and I finally acknowledged them. It doesn't mean I subscribe to them. I personally am not looking to sleep around. But what interests me is the process of attraction, friends or mates. But the first step to being attractive is to be proud of yourself.

So let each interaction you have with a person be a high-yield lesson. Study yourself when you interact with other people. Study and then point out your weakness. Practice often and not just with attractive women. Learn a lot from only one example and your gains will be astronomical.

You here it everywhere. "Confidence is key." If you want to know what confidence is, try:

The Blueprint

It's hard out there, do work son.